It just dawned on me during my morning wake n bake, how it was easy for me to spend a day stewing in my own bullshit and yet I feel obligated to help when I see someone else dealing with their own shit. It’s not that I care, I really don’t, it’s just that I’m (I hate this term) “empathetic” and pick up on vibes way easier then I want to. When I see someone dealing with something, it’s like walking into a room that someone else just farted in. It smells and I want to open the windows. This is also why I have no problem sitting in my own issues since your own farts don’t smell.
What does this have to with cooking?
While I’m not physically a big guy, I carry myself as such, even when I don’t mean to. When I’m running the line, or even just working as a cook, I have a very large presence that’s felt by everyone, even if I’m trying my best to stay low key.
Being the Chef is a bitch and we often have a lot more going on than the rest of the staff is aware of. It’s a stressful gig that takes its toll on us and it’s easy for us to take it out on others without being aware of this. God only knows how many times I’ve snapped on family, friends and lovers without meaning to. This is part of why I’ve stepped back from running places while I take the time to fix my shit.
So your point is?
Check yourself before you wreck yourself motherfucker. I’m serious, check yourself out and get centered before you step in the Kitchen. You’re the guy in charge, you’re the one who sets the tempo. People are going to be paying attention and picking up on your vibes and while you might think and tell yourself that you’re fine, are you?
Want a fun Kitchen where everyone gets along? Set that tone. Want people who are loyal to you and take pride in their work? Lead them by example and show them how it’s done. Want to work with a bunch of assholes who only care about their next paycheck? Go snap on them for petty shit without giving them direction or a way to fix it. Better yet, get drunk and do it! This is also a great way to get knocked the fuck out as well so I think you get my point.
The busy season is coming, patios are opening and the crowds are coming. Things are about to get fun and it’s up to you to set the tone. Step back, center yourself and own the fact that you set the tone. Cook like you fuck.
Want to help me film a food Documentary?
I am leaving the east coast on April 5th to set out on another series of misadventures across the US and I need all the help I can get.